My dad, Joseph Maxwell Tucker III, passed away on December 13th from complications due to lung cancer. He was just a few weeks shy of 78 years old. Too soon – stuff like this is always too soon – but sometimes when the doctors say one to five years, what they really mean is eight months and change. I want to take a minute to tell you all a little bit about him, because I wouldn’t be here without him, and I don’t just mean in the obvious “here on planet Earth” sense; I mean here writing about cars. Dad was a champion and supporter of all my automotive endeavors, an accomplished engineer, an airplane buff, and a gearhead who had an impressive resumé of cars over the years. In short, he was an Autopian to the core.
The Bug, The Fiat, And The Scirocco
One of my earliest clear memories is seeing Star Wars at the drive-in in the summer of 1977. I was four. My mom stayed home with my two-year-old brother, and Dad and I hopped in his tan ’69 VW Beetle and went. I still remember sitting there, with a paper bag of popcorn we brought from home, watching X-Wing and TIE fighters scream across the screen while laser noises pew-pewed out of the cast-aluminum speaker hung on the window.
The Beetle gave way to a brand-new Fiat 128 sedan in the winter of 1978-79. We had a blizzard in Chicago that year, and Dad told me many years later that one of the reasons he chose the Fiat over its competitors is that its suspension design allowed for more ground clearance, which he thought would be an advantage in deep snow. That rational, analytical way of choosing things was always there; the engineer in him informed everything he did. We even took the Fiat on a cross-country family vacation once, which I’ve written about before over at Opposite Lock.
Dad was an avid tennis player when I was young, and pretty good, from what I understand. He played in a couple of leagues, won a few tournament trophies, and made a lot of friends doing it. And more importantly to his young already-car-crazy son, a great many of the people in his tennis league drove small sports cars. I remember Triumphs, E-Type Jags, MGBs, a Karmann-Ghia or two, a Datsun 240Z, and the one that would become the most important to me: a silver 1979 VW Scirocco.
The Scirocco belonged to Dad’s friend Dave Zborowski, who also had a black Porsche 914. But it was the Scirocco that caught my attention when I was a kid. Its crisp styling, one of the finest examples of Giugiaro’s “folded-paper” design era, just called to me. You can imagine my excitement, then, when Dad bought it for me for my sixteenth birthday. There was a practical side to this: I was a hardcore theater and band kid in high school, and between early-morning speech meets and late-night marching band practices, my parents were both tired of driving me around, and more than happy to provide me with a car. The only stipulations were that I pay for my own gas, repairs, and maintenance, and that I give my younger brother Zach a ride to school, which I did gladly.
Sadly, the Scirocco was not long for this world: it had been in an accident some years earlier, and not repaired properly. The rust, to which all Volkswagens of the late 1970s were prone, attacked the left front corner of the unibody with a particular ferocity, and while I was busy fixing the exterior rust problems, the car was rotting away from the inside out. When it became unsafe to drive, and unrepairable, I had to send it to the junkyard. I may or may not have cried. Dad offered me his ‘85 VW Golf to use, and it took me on many adventures and misadventures during college. I’m not sure how much Dad knew about, but if he ever noticed the dings and scrapes, or how quickly it was accumulating miles, he never mentioned it.
From Small Economy Cars To Big Fast Sedans
Dad worked for Caterpillar for nearly four decades, first in the design department working on hydraulic systems and excavator linkages and bucket designs, and later as part of the Challenger farm tractor team, as a quality and reliability engineer. He even had a couple of patents to his name through Caterpillar. I would love to have had the chance to introduce him to David and Huibert; they would have had a grand old time nerding out together. I wouldn’t have understood more than a tenth of it, but it would have been an epic conversation to witness. His work on the Challenger tractors took him to Winnipeg, Manitoba for a few years, and then to Harsewinkel, Germany for a few more. During this time, Dad discovered the joys of horsepower.
It all started with Audi. My mom, after finally getting her Master’s degree in psychotherapy and opening her own practice, treated herself to a new car – a bright red Audi 5000S (visible in the background of the Scirocco photo above). That car played a dark and disturbing role in my family’s history: it was in two serious wrecks, the second of which put Mom in a wheelchair. But the paramedics on the scene also said it saved her life, and Dad was sold: he replaced it with another Audi 5000, this one a turbo, and then another after that. The Audis were beautiful cars, but every bit as high-maintenance and trouble-prone then as they are today. Dad replaced the last one with a silver five-speed Ford Taurus SHO. That SHO remains to this day the car in which I have driven the fastest: 135 miles per hour, on the Kansas Turnpike. And yes, Dad was in the car with me.
When he lived in Germany, the SHO waited in storage, and he bought a 1990 BMW 730i to drive. He actually wanted to bring it back to the US with him, but sadly his assignment in Germany ended in 2001, and the big gray BMW was far too new to be imported.
In 2006, when he retired, he bought a new car: a mint-green Chrysler 300C, and from then on was a Hemi evangelist. It was replaced by a black 2013 300C, also with a Hemi, his last car. That car is now in my possession, and I intend to keep it and take care of it.
Toys And Models, From Pinewood Derby To Pocher And Beyond
Looking back, having a mechanical engineer for a father was probably an unfair advantage when it came to the Pinewood Derby. We didn’t just build a car; we blueprinted it: precisely aligning the axle slots so it rolled free and true, adding weight until it was just a hair under the five-ounce limit (“in case their scale isn’t as precise as ours,” he said), carefully shaping and painting the body to resemble my favorite racing livery at the time – Jim Clark’s green-and-yellow Lotus 49. It worked; we won by a country mile.
Dad wanted me to follow in his footsteps and become an engineer, I think, but I never had the math skills. (I am at best an engineering buff; I can appreciate good design and engineering, but I can’t do it myself.) But that didn’t stop him from supplying me with things to build: Lego and Erector sets, model car and airplane kits, Estes rockets, even those Radio Shack electronics kits with the spring-loaded terminals and bits of wire to connect everything. We built and flew control-line airplanes and raced slot cars and tackled a one-eighth scale Pocher model kit of a 1907 Fiat race car together. He was fascinated by my radio control cars as well, and even bought one of his own to chase Charly, his Pekingese, around the yard.
He Loved This Site, Too
Dad was so excited when I got the Shitbox Showdown gig. I’ve been writing since junior high, but this is my first real paid writing job, and he was thrilled. He visited this site every day, and not just to read my silly little column; he was a huge fan of Mercedes’s airplane articles, and Huibert’s deep technical dives as well.
He would call me to discuss the cars I chose, give me his opinion or tell some story about someone who had a car just like it, or tell me about some technical tidbit about them. He’d also call to tell me about something he saw Jay Leno do on YouTube, or the auctions he was watching on Bring A Trailer (purely window-shopping, but he loved doing it as much as the rest of us). I’m really going to miss those phone calls.
Last September, he came up to visit, and we went to the Portland All-British Field Meet in my MG. He was already getting weak, and having trouble walking, so we sat him down in the Columbia Gorge MG Club tent and he held court all day, swapping stories with the older folks in the club (which is everyone but my wife and me), and had a grand time. It was the last really good visit we had, and I’m thankful we got to do it.
So take a minute, if you will, to raise a glass (literal or metaphorical, your choice) to a guy who was, without a doubt, One Of Us – my dad, Joe Tucker. Goodbye, Dad. And thanks.
Sorry for your loss Mark. Condolences to the whole Tucker family.
How do you sum up the entirety of a person’s life? How do you condense decades of experiences, emotions, surprises, and tedium into a few paragraphs? It’s impossible, and I don’t envy you for having to try.
My dad is still alive, but I’ve seen him cope with the loss of his best friend and fellow Mustang aficionado, and I don’t know if it ever gets any easier for him. There are still tears every Thanksgiving, on the anniversary of Mr. Beeke’s passing, and the stickers memorializing Dave’s life will probably remain affixed to our cars until we are all in the ground as well.
The way my dad celebrates his friend is to hold a car show on his friend’s birthday. It started small, but has grown over the years and now regularly sees 100+ Mustangs and other Fox bodies. I know that one day (hopefully in the far off future) my dad will also return to the earth, and the Mr. Beeke car show will morph into something else. My hope is that it will continue, hopefully as a show where attendees can talk about the important individuals who shared their love of cars and are no longer with us.
That’s the amazing thing about car culture. Barriers fall. When you’re sweating, swearing, and slipping on the cold concrete, ground trying to bust a stubborn bolt loose… It’s a universal experience. You become a little closer to your fellow man. You understand them a little more, through these shared experiences.
Sorry for your father’s passing. He lives in you, and you brought him to us whether you knew it or not.
Thanks for sharing, that was really nice.
Sorry for your loss! This story sounds so familiar. My first memory is sitting in my father’s lap at the driver’s seat of his beautiful yellow 1970 Buick Skylark convertible, steering it (at least I thought I was steering. He had a hand on the wheel the whole time) in the parking lot at pre-school. I almost cried when he traded the Skylark in 1979 for a Regal (he regretted it too), but his love of cars and penchant for fierce negotiations with car salesmen over the most interesting cars he could get his hands on – ignited my love of cars as well. I still remember when he won a coin toss for the rights to buy an ’82 Accord before it even arrived at the dealership because they were so popular, when he traded it for an ’84 Subaru GL with a digital dash that blew us away, and when he worked through three different dealerships until he won the right to buy a 1990 Miata before it even arrived too. He taught me how to drive a manual on that Miata and I’ll never forget the way his face lit up when I put it in gear and got us moving the first time without so much as a lurch.
Dad had pretty amazing taste, from Buick to Honda to Subaru to Volkswagen to BMW to Jeep to Mazda, he was a real enthusiast and it was nice to bond with him over that excitement. Whenever I was down, he’d take me “car shopping,” until one day I came home to a red 1990 Mustang GT in the driveway with a bow on it and a note warning me to be responsible with it (still wish I had paid a bit more attention to that note).
It was colon cancer that took my Dad, just shy of his 60th birthday. He put up a hell of a fight, and not being able to drive his NB Miata was tough on him. I think he would love The Autopian, and I wish he could see the cars I have now. Cheers – may your father’s memory be a blessing to your family.
Mark, very sorry for your loss, and thank you for sharing this piece of his life and yours with us.
Beautiful post, Mark.
I’ll raise a virtual glass for your father.
A parent and child sharing a passion together is a super special thing.
Beautiful tribute to what sounds like a life well-lived.
Here’s to Joe. It sounds like he was a great dad and a fine human being. Thanks for sharing this. You have our condolences, which feels really empty to say. But as a guy whose dad is 75, I know this day is coming for me sooner than I’d like. I hope I’m able to handle it with as much dignity as you have.
Great tribute — condolences.
I will share my memory of first seeing Star Wars with my son: The post-movie trick was keeping the pedal off the metal, after that climactic battle in the Death Star trench. I was so velocitized it seemed just the thing to go zooming down main street!
What a great tribute! Your Dad would be proud and so should you be. Sorry.
Very sorry for your loss. He sounds like a good man.
Very sorry for your loss.
My Dad also got me into wrenching. I used to hand him tools all the while he was packing wheel bears our other things on an old pontiac station wagon. Then again on a 67 MGB for 15 years. Then he watched me rebuild the MG’s engine in our car port. That’s when he gave it too me. I wrenched on it for 5 more years until a drunk driver totaled it by rear ending me.
Again, sorry for your loss
Sorry to hear of your loss.
It sounds like you have a lot of memories that will live on and a voice in your head to give opinions on things automotive and beyond and that will make you smile.
Aw man… This was a wonderful tribute to your dad. I’m so sorry for your loss, but your dad sounds like he was a great guy.
Your upbringing sounds a LOT like mine, right down to the geographic locations and dad’s career, so a lot of this hit close to home for me, and made me tear up a bit.
If we ever have a PDX Autopian meetup, I’d love to talk RC cars buy you a beer.
What a great dad and, as you say, one of us. Thanks for sharing so much about him. A virtual toast to Joe! Condolences Mark.
I am so sorry to hear about his passing, and so happy to hear about his life. Sounds like it was a good one…just not long enough.
I too coveted that first-gen Scirocco deeply. And I too feel fortunate to have grown up around Fiats, Triumphs, and VWs, along with a few classic Detroit and Japanese cars. I am not a wrencher, but I am a big appreciator, and the sheer automotive variety of the olden days was so fun and enriching.
“Teach your children well.” Good job , Joe.
So sorry to hear about your loss. This is a fantastic tribute that you should be very proud of.
My first car was a 1978 Scirocco in 1984. In New England. I can confirm the rust. That car was a lot of fun for about two years.
Your dad sounds amazing. Thanks for sharing.
My condolences for your loss. The greatest gift a boy could have is a great dad. You will miss him every day, as I do mine.
Fitting tribute and you should be proud of writing it. I’m sorry to hear about his passing.
Sorry Mark.
Thank you for this, Mark.
“Dad was so excited when I got the Shitbox Showdown gig.”
That is an excellent sentence. 🙂
My dad – whom we lost a few years ago – was also a mech e, and there are some interesting similarities. Dad designed and built, among many other things, a Pinewood Derby finish line mechanism that would switch on a light bulb only in the winning lane.
He taught me to wrench and, like your dad, politely let a lot of things slide. I had a motorcycle in high school (just a 4-stroke enduro type) and one day I noticed it was making an odd noise at high RPM. When I was describing this to Dad, I helpfully added that I noticed the sound most in first and second but also in fifth gear.
Dad thought for a second and said “High RPM?”. I confirmed. “In fifth gear?” I cluelessly confirmed again.
Then he asked “How fast is that, son?” Busted.
I said “Uh, that’s 55, Dad!” and we had a good laugh. I miss him.
My condolences, he sounds like he was a great father and definitely “one of us”.
Thanks for sharing this.
Thank you for sharing even a small part of a life well lived, may his spirit guide you throughout your life. Peace and blessings
It’s a lovely tribute, Mark. Sorry for your loss.